The Newbie Misconception.

It’s one of the biggest mistakes newbie’s make when coming into the game after reading what seems to be like the precursor to their PUA lifestyle, “The Game by Neil Strauss” is that they feel like they need to be more than what they already are, like they need to lie about who they are, use gimmicks, routines and even magic tricks in order to be seen as an attractive man in the eyes of a woman. Although I do strongly recommend reading this book as the fundamentals of attraction and seduction that are explained in it are true… but the way you apply them in field and in real life social situations can vary in a number of ways, however, we can narrow them down into two different categories.

They are;

1.        Direct

2.        Indirect

The indirect approach is basically what most if not all newbie’s latch on to as if it is the be all and end all of them getting laid. I see this all the time. Let’s see; …after reading “The Game”, learning about the Mystery Method, thinking you need to wear a giant top hat with an ace of hearts stuck to the side of it for attention, or trying to guess what number the girl is thinking of when she really couldn’t give a fuck are all good examples of this type of attack. The best/worst part about this isn’t even explained…the bigger picture, the reason WHY you are being shown this type of approach is to concede that you are someone who is needy, boring, and low value. You are doing all these things to hide the fact that in reality, you are unattractive and you don’t want a woman to notice who you really are.

Believe it or not, that is the underlying message to these types of methods being presented to you in the game. You should not be ok with this.

It’s not the poor newbie’s fault though, he’s new…this seems like a great way to meet and attract girls when you are coming from a place where you don’t socialise with girls often, or even at all. The problem I see with all this is that it just wastes a hell of a lot of time and often brings more disappointment than excitement into your life. Surely the incongruence with acting like a completely different person would send the alarm bells ringing? It just won’t work. You’re not a clown, you are a man, and you already possess more than enough qualities to attract women and this leads me nicely in to the Direct approach.

Direct; to approach a female with no attempt at hiding your attraction to her whatsoever.

I love this approach, because it’s mostly unexpected to women and you can catch them off-guard which is always fun. What’s more is that you get much more excitement and success out of going direct. Not surprisingly, half the time when people go indirect they have already been rejected by the girl BEFORE the PUA has blurted out enough jokes and routines and worked up the confidence to ‘make his move’, all the while she is subconsciously trying to decide if you measure up, if you are attractive to her, if you can provide happiness and excitement for her. The more time you take to express these qualities within you, the greater risk of failure.

I won’t lie, the direct approach does require a shit-tonne of confidence and an uncaring mindset. You can’t be effected by the end result, whether it is a success or failure. You will always have a good time and no matter what happens, you had a great time being yourself, expressing yourself, and not giving a fuck what people think of you.

This approach is the basis of Natural game, in order to fully grasp this type of game you will have a strong sense of who you are, and what makes you attractive without needing to compensate for things.

There is never too much I can talk about where direct and natural game are concerned. However, that is for another time. The purpose of this post is to express my point about newcomers getting in to pick-up, going down the wrong track and using all their time and energy on something they will eventually realise isn’t worth it, and could cause bigger problems.

Everything contained in this post is from my own personal experience, as we were all newbie’s ourselves once upon a time. I know I wasted a lot of time, many nights going out and trying to get into some girls pants while spouting off “the cube” and various other routines, lol. I had my cheat sheets and my excessive clothing accessories…fail. The best I got was a number here and there, few and far between. The positives that I take away from all that time spent was that it pointed me in the direction to base my pickups on who I am and what I’m all about, not what someone else is about. I’m better than anyone else so why the hell should I lower myself to become them? This is how you should be thinking. As a natural you know you’re the shit. You know all the girls fucking love you, but they aren’t just going to come and approach you to find out…that’s why you need to go and make this happen.

Have fun doing this, there are a tonne of good people out there, go and celebrate being awesome! Do not waste time killing who you really are, and using fake stories to express yourself…finally I leave you with this question;

Is it better to be loved for something you are not, than to be hated for what you are?

<3 Jason.